PAIN
Pain sucks. And yet it is a necessary and invaluable part of our self-regulation, self-correction, and safety mechanisms. Chronic, debilitating, excessive pain REALLY sucks. This type of pain is NOT necessary or valuable; usually it is a sign that something is seriously out of whack. In most cases, you don’t have to “just live with” severe or chronic pain. For more than two decades I have helped my clients with their pain; I’ve got loads of non-invasive, non-pharmaceutical help for pain in my bag of tricks.
50 & BETTER
While our culture often is preoccupied with the young and perky, I love working with people in the “second half” of life. In general this population has better attitudes and excellent work ethics; they bring a much deeper level of wisdom and sophistication to healing and self-improvement. It is my great pleasure to help provide new strategies and perspectives to a wide range of conditions that are relevant to those who are 50 & Better.
HEALTHY SEXUALITY
It’s a crazy time for human sexuality; there is so much sexual content … and very little sexual substance. We are bombarded by sexual imagery, but it is rare to have a relevant, meaningful conversation about sex. I get to help with such a wide range of sexual topics; from healing sexual violence to internet dating, from re-negotiating family of origin beliefs to helping increase sexual pleasure. It is a great privilege to be able to work with this fundamental aspect of our humanity.
I am a professional therapist; this is how I make a living and provide for my family. Being a professional requires a steadfast effort to maintain a high level of excellence and to provide the highest level of service possible. It is an attitude, a mindset, and not just my job. Being a healer is what I do, it is who I am; it requires of me a high level of integrity and commitment.
I would be doomed without my sense of humor. Please know that I take your situation and your suffering very seriously. And, wherever appropriate, I inject lightness, fun, and humor. Laughter is a magical and mysterious healing elixir; it just plain works in wonderful and amazing ways.
Human touch is a wondrous and remarkable clinical tool. I’ve spent decades cultivating and refining my touch skills. While not applicable in every case, there are times when skillful touch is absolutely magical and can help resolve even the most challenging conditions.
I like people. All y’all are fascinating and complex and marvelous. I never feel bored when working with human beings. Being naturally friendly and enjoying the company of people, even when they are hurting, is enormously helpful in this line of work. Throughout the day, my motto is “to be of good cheer.”
We all love a good story. However, when you are suffering, it’s often a huge relief to find a good listener. Here is my great, ongoing, and delightful challenge: How deeply and clearly can I listen to your story, the tale of your need, your situation, your suffering? How many levels and layers can I hear? Can I hear your living history as it emerges into your current story? When I can truly hear you, the treatment plan reveals itself in brilliant clarity.
It’s taken me a long, long time to learn to wield compassion in the clinical setting. Compassion and kindness are the ”big guns” in my therapeutic toolkit. Even though “how” they work is shrouded in mystery, there is no question that compassion and kindness work wonders on a daily basis.
Sometimes the key that unlocks the therapeutic puzzle is found in my ability to perceive clearly and deeply, to penetrate to the heart of the matter. Once the causal forces are perceived, the course of treatment emerges into full clarity.
My ability to access stillness is a cornerstone of my practice. The deepest experiences of healing emerge out of the stillness at the core of our beings. An integral part of my work is helping my clients have a direct relationship with their own stillness. At this point of my career much of my professional development work involves deepening and cultivating my capacity for stillness.
